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The Mindset is designed to help Muslim women nurture beliefs grounded in agency, dignity and self-worth – helping us to live our best lives.

The Myths and Realities of the Muslim Marriage Contract
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The Myths and Realities of the Muslim Marriage Contract

Almost two years ago, I wrote a long twitter thread explaining what a Muslim marriage contract entails and why I think every young person looking to get married should get one. The reactions from many young Muslim men were quite appalling. Many of them interpreted this gesture as an attack on the male gender, some said it was a sign that couples don’t trust each other and many others said it was a means to sneak liberal ideologies into Islam.

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Advice to Young Girls from an Unapologetically Black Muslim Feminist
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Advice to Young Girls from an Unapologetically Black Muslim Feminist

Women within the system of patriarchy have internalized the trauma of sexism, and have generations after generations, had to adhere closely for their own limited participation, approval, survival, and recently a point of anti-Western cultural rhetoric, to the extent that they then become fierce gatekeepers of what has become facts of life.

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What I've Learned from Documenting the Joys of Muslim Women
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What I’ve Learned from Documenting the Joys of Muslim Women

As I got more and more responses that detailed joy in ibadah, in our hijab, in serving our family and friends, in helping, in giving back; and very few responses about joy for the sake of it or finding the same emotions in things that revolved about us, were about us; I do wonder. Are we truly this altruistic and giving, or have we been taught that our worth was in the value we bring, so much so that we can barely find joy in ourselves, for ourselves, and just because? Do we really not feel joy outside of these roles or are we just scared of owning that, possibly of being judged as not Muslim enough?

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Why Muslim Women Need to Unlearn the Culture of Martyrdom: The Pressure to Perform is Wearing Us Down
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Why Muslim Women Need to Unlearn the Culture of Martyrdom: The Pressure to Perform is Wearing Us Down

Muslim women are especially expected to do more with less; to handle multiple demands, to run lean. We see this all the time in the way we have to multitask at work and at home. We know who we are. We are brilliant and we can do anything we put our minds to. But how do we start to make a movement culture in which the workload is truly shared?

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Does The Size or Style of The Hijab Make Us Better Muslims?
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Does The Size or Style of The Hijab Make Us Better Muslims?

It was really appalling to discover that these sisters would mock other sisters who were trying to wrap their hijabs after salah. They referred to themselves as the “no-hijab-pin” ummah. After all, if you needed to pin down a scarf, then it was not a hijab!

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Wild and Vulnerable: 3 Steps to Reclaiming Your Feminine Power as a Muslim Woman
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Wild and Vulnerable: 3 Steps to Reclaiming Your Feminine Power as a Muslim Woman

We were taught that being vulnerable, wild, and feminine was inferior and not desirable when in actual fact, our wild feminine was deeply feared by society. In order to understand how to reclaim our power as women, we need to understand why, in the first place, femininity was suppressed and vilified.

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The Muslim Women Times
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Ladies Beware: That Nice Muslim Man Could be a Misogynist.

“The history of men’s opposition to women’s emancipation is more interesting perhaps than the story of that emancipation itself.” ― Virginia Woolf, A Room of One’s Own When you met Mansoor, he told you “you’re not like other girls”. You asked him what made you different and he couldn’t point at it. Despite this, you […]

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