People will walk away when you start to change. People will become uncomfortable with the version of you that’s difficult to manipulate and control. These people can be family, close friends or even a spouse. And you have to be able to recognise this as a positive thing.
Seeing as the conversations around “peace” in marriage are a bit one-sided, one cannot but wonder what being peaceful means.
A large number of Muslim men who advocate for women’s right to wear the hijab do not actually think of the hijab as a right. They are not fighting for the Muslim woman’s right to self-determination and freedom of choice.
We have explained why “Why were you out so late?” and “what were you wearing?” are problematic responses to cases of violence. It communicates that women should be held responsible for their own safety and blamed when things go wrong. But have we ever considered that even well-intentioned instructions to “be careful” and “take precautions” can be energy-sapping and exhausting?
