Author: Oyinkansola Fadiji

  • Oyinkansola Fadiji is a cage rattler; a purr girl who is most at peace with donning pants, living unassumingly and being a nomad.
My Counsellor Told Me that Women Were Created to Serve Men: On the Pressure to Get Married at Thirty-Two
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My Counsellor Told Me that Women Were Created to Serve Men: Recounting My Awful Experience

At some point in my sessions, I decided to show up only mindlessly, registering my displeasure by scowling and asking fewer questions. I reached this decision after the diminutive counsellor had said “Husbands forcing themselves on their wives is not rape”. I had afterwards asked him to define rape. He was angry at my audacity. He did not appreciate being questioned.

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Gendered-Bullying in Muslim Circles - The Muslim Women Times
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The Normativity of Gendered-Bullying in Muslim Circles

I do not, cannot and will not understand why I must reduce my capabilities as a wife to elevate yours as a husband. When bullying occurs in religious settings, you find out that men and women, although different, are very much similar.

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